Myth... You Have To Love Yourself First

Perhaps you’ve heard or been told at some point in your life that you have to learn to love yourself first before you can expect someone else to love you. 

I call bull shit. 

You do NOT have to know how to love yourself in order for someone else to love you. For someone to show up and give you unconditional, raw, real love or for someone to love you as best and as hard as they know how with everything they’ve got. 

Now, if you’re able to receive that love is a totally different story... Maybe you’ve been hurt or abandoned so many times that you have a hard time trusting and being open to love. Maybe you’re on the journey to learn to receive love from yourself let alone others. 

But not being able to receive love is vastly different than not being loved. 

You CAN be loved even when you’re not sure how to love yourself. In fact, from my experience it’s often this practice of letting others love us that gently nudges us to deepen our practice to love on ourselves. That reminds us of the things we’re needing to nurture in our hearts + minds + bodies + spirits, the things we need and yearn for to feel whole or at our best. 

Today, I call into question the myth of needing to love yourself first before you can expect love from an outside source.

Love is not something that you need to earn. You are always worthy of being loved. Even if you don’t know how to love yourself. 

Have the best week.

Xx

Coach Reita

Hi, it's Reita and I'm here to support you in increasing your confidence and living your best life. I specialize in one-on-one coaching for your whole self (your body, mind, brain and spirit) including emotional health, stress management, personal development, trauma processing, change groundwork and life skills.